So if you are one of the thousands of guys that are asking the question why can't I get a girlfriend, go through each of the reasons below and be honest with yourself...
1. You Do Not Meet Basic Attractiveness Levels
Girls care about looks.
But luckily for us, not as much as we do...
There are some simple guidelines that each of us have to follow to make sure that we are not being disqualified as potential boyfriends due to our appearance.
Don't be fat
Thinking logically, what does being fat show a potential girlfriend girl?
It shows that you over consume (see reason 2) and that if we were back on the plains of Africa (the time that a woman's genes have evolved to define attractiveness), what is the likelihood that you would be able to provide for her and her children?
The solution is simple: develop better habits, learn about nutrition and start to enjoy exercise.
Wear good clothes
Now this one is harder to justify from an evolutionary stand point so I won't try, you will just have to trust me, girls like guys that have some idea of fashion.
Read some fashion blogs and then head to eBay to buy some skinny jeans.
Be well groomed
If you are not well groomed this suggest to the girl that you are unable to care for yourself, let alone her and her children?
So, take a shave, go to a barbers for a fresh cut and brush your teeth.
2. You Take Value
Are you creating or consuming?
Are you looking for a girlfriend because it will make you feel better in your sad and lonely life?
If so, I don't blame you.
It could be argued that mainstream society benefits from a consumer culture. Take more value than you provide and you will be happy.
However, if you want to turn the table and can finally realise where true happiness comes from you will start providing value.
And when you do, you will find that girls will start to congregate around you as opposed to avoid you.
3. You Chase
Did you ever play kiss chase when you were younger?
Yes, girls love chasing boys. They may not admit this but they do, they fantasize about it.
If you start chasing that perfect girl, you will be playing her role, the role of the feminine.
Now assuming that you are innately attracted to feminine energy (most straight guys are), the girl you will be chasing will be repelled by your actions.
Take a step back, assume the role of the man and allow her to do what she loves to do: kiss chase.
I hope you have now internalised the three reasons that answer the question "why can't I get a girlfriend" and have been honest with yourself as to whether they currently apply to you, and if they do, get to work...
So, with this in mind, the one place you should be looking when asking how to find a girlfriend is...
Within YOURSELF
If you enter into a relationship with this same famine mentality, then yeah, it's great at first. Like a heroin addict juicing right into the blasting sore on his arm... yet it is just the cycle that produces more hunger.
Yes, what I am trying to say is that you cannot find the answer to the question "how to find a girlfriend", without (running the risk of becoming to philosophical) first finding yourself.
Before entering into a relationship with another person, you must be completely happy with being alone.
Yes, and the problem being that there is no quick fix, $29.99 product for this issue. You have to read, play, run, socialise and work your way to happiness and fulfilment that is not tied to the actions of a person of the opposite sex.
You need to build a life that you are excited to wake up to, that includes activities, foods, work, people, places that you love. Your life must be filled full of things that provide a much greater alternative to "finding a girlfriend".
And what's funny is that once you do achieve this and do fine whole, aren't that bothered about the "how to find a girlfriend" question anymore.
It's a paradox, just like eating before you go to the grocery store, the shopping trip is much less exciting.
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