There is so much about being successful at dating that it can
make your head spin. Before you throw in the towel while wondering why
men fly off the window just after the first date, you should consider
reading this. It could literally change your world of dating. While
there are some big don'ts when dating, there are others that are little
known but have profound repercussions. Remember that saying of a small
leak sinks a great vessel? It applies to this case perfectly. Painfully,
these are usually the biggest mistakes you don't realize you are making
and perhaps why you are repelling men so perfectly.
Going over the top with the make-up.
In this particular case, the precise problem is with the smoky eye. Most women would figure that the elegance of the smoky eye would be the perfect hook on a date. While it might be true, it does send mixed signals among them being the fact that you are high maintenance. This is blamed on the fact that it takes a while to get together. Woe unto you if you rush it and end up looking like a Goth fanatic which would make the situation even worse. Instead, you might want to hold of the smoky eye and keep things simple for the first few dates.
Ignoring social cues.
Let's face it, the favorite topic for most people and particularly women is themselves. However, at a date, the goal is to get to know the other person. The quickest way to kill a conversation is not asking question or ignoring some things. Remember that the chemistry is not guaranteed. It has to be built and if you do not participate, then you will be leaving a lot of potential untapped. Most women usually expect that the chemistry will strike in the first few seconds. While it might happen in isolated cases, in others, it requires to be warmed up a bit.
Talking about your Ex.
Under no circumstance should your ex feature in a conversation at your date. Whether in good or bad light. Even though it might be tempting, it is an urge and that you have to fight with every fiber in your body. The quickest way to get a guy creating excuses to leave the date is by getting chatty about your ex. While the topic might be inescapable at later stages of the relationship, you should desist from it all cost in the initial stages of the date. If he happens to ask, try to limit your words as much as possible. Save him the gory details of the break up or all the things he did wrong. The last thing you want is to make him think you are giving him a checklist.
Basing everything on chemistry.
For that love connection to spark, there is a number of other chemistries that have to fall in place.. This is the one fact that most women fail to acknowledge. Even though it might occur easily in some instances, in others it does need a bit of work. As much as physical chemistry is the one that most people know of, there has to be some intellectual chemistry and emotional chemistry in there as well. It is hard to chat with a person who cannot even spell the word 'BOB' backwards when you are an intellect. Lastly and perhaps the most important type of chemistry is the spiritual chemistry. You want to be with a person who you think of as kind, generous honest and with all the positive attributes that you love. It will never work if you have a negative aura towards your date or your partner.
Bringing in the baggage.
When you are committing yourself to dating, you can either be a contributor or a contaminator. In most instances, most women find themselves playing the later role even without knowing. To be a contributor and make the date work, you have to be willing to leave your baggage at the door and give the time you have together your all. Do not be hell bent on making the life of your partner difficult just because yours is. It is not yet the time to start sharing burdens. Unless you want him to be a financier and a supporter in which case you would be doing anything but dating.
Knowing the wrong signs that you could be sending albeit with the best intentions is critical. It can be painful to have good men come and go without understanding what you do wrong. Now you have an idea of the biggest dating mistakes you don't realize that you're making. The sooner you work on them, the better your chances of finally making the right steps to getting a soul mate.
Going over the top with the make-up.
In this particular case, the precise problem is with the smoky eye. Most women would figure that the elegance of the smoky eye would be the perfect hook on a date. While it might be true, it does send mixed signals among them being the fact that you are high maintenance. This is blamed on the fact that it takes a while to get together. Woe unto you if you rush it and end up looking like a Goth fanatic which would make the situation even worse. Instead, you might want to hold of the smoky eye and keep things simple for the first few dates.
Ignoring social cues.
Let's face it, the favorite topic for most people and particularly women is themselves. However, at a date, the goal is to get to know the other person. The quickest way to kill a conversation is not asking question or ignoring some things. Remember that the chemistry is not guaranteed. It has to be built and if you do not participate, then you will be leaving a lot of potential untapped. Most women usually expect that the chemistry will strike in the first few seconds. While it might happen in isolated cases, in others, it requires to be warmed up a bit.
Talking about your Ex.
Under no circumstance should your ex feature in a conversation at your date. Whether in good or bad light. Even though it might be tempting, it is an urge and that you have to fight with every fiber in your body. The quickest way to get a guy creating excuses to leave the date is by getting chatty about your ex. While the topic might be inescapable at later stages of the relationship, you should desist from it all cost in the initial stages of the date. If he happens to ask, try to limit your words as much as possible. Save him the gory details of the break up or all the things he did wrong. The last thing you want is to make him think you are giving him a checklist.
Basing everything on chemistry.
For that love connection to spark, there is a number of other chemistries that have to fall in place.. This is the one fact that most women fail to acknowledge. Even though it might occur easily in some instances, in others it does need a bit of work. As much as physical chemistry is the one that most people know of, there has to be some intellectual chemistry and emotional chemistry in there as well. It is hard to chat with a person who cannot even spell the word 'BOB' backwards when you are an intellect. Lastly and perhaps the most important type of chemistry is the spiritual chemistry. You want to be with a person who you think of as kind, generous honest and with all the positive attributes that you love. It will never work if you have a negative aura towards your date or your partner.
Bringing in the baggage.
When you are committing yourself to dating, you can either be a contributor or a contaminator. In most instances, most women find themselves playing the later role even without knowing. To be a contributor and make the date work, you have to be willing to leave your baggage at the door and give the time you have together your all. Do not be hell bent on making the life of your partner difficult just because yours is. It is not yet the time to start sharing burdens. Unless you want him to be a financier and a supporter in which case you would be doing anything but dating.
Knowing the wrong signs that you could be sending albeit with the best intentions is critical. It can be painful to have good men come and go without understanding what you do wrong. Now you have an idea of the biggest dating mistakes you don't realize that you're making. The sooner you work on them, the better your chances of finally making the right steps to getting a soul mate.
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